Mercurial Mel

It so depends on a number of factors, like:

- background political situation
- perceptions of the manager by the managed
- etc

Obviously her non-official recognition is sucky because it undermines her authority.

ALways remember there's a 'time and place' - it's a basic rule that lots of managers forget, and lose repsect of their staff from stuffing it up

Don't be afraid to get your hands dirty alongside your workers if needed, as they respect that and you will have less problems if you can be one of the people while managing them. Delegation is important in management but, helping when necessary proves that you really are a team.
Be understanding but firm, listen to your employees and address their concerns but, pay attention to patterns if there is a continual problem with an employee ie. sick, late etc...
Don't be wishy washy.
Grow a thick hide, you'll need it in a management position. Some people may resent you for power and authority and gossip from jealousy don't debase yourself because of this.
If there are problems, address them don't wish or hope them away. You're a manager you need to make sure everything is running smoothly or a very good facsimile thereof.
Lead by example yes it sounds trite but you have to come from a position of strength, power, and knowledge. Knowing what your employee's job is and understanding it is key, there is nothing worse than a manager who is your boss and knows nothing about the business. No respect will be garnered from this and employees will tend not to listen or care.